10. I live
far away from the bride. Am I expected to attend all of the
events leading up to the wedding?
to come to (at your own expense) the shower and of course,
the wedding. If you live really far away and can't make it
to the shower, call the bride and let her know that you'd
love to be there but just can't be. Then send a nice gift
to be opened at the shower or have fresh flowers delivered
and include a mushy card about friendship. She'll like that.
There may also be other events and parties that just are not
practical to attend and as much as she'd like you to be there,
the bride should be (doesn't mean she will be) understanding.