14. How can I be the best bridesmaid I can be?
- No complaining . . . to the bride
She doesn't want to hear that the dress makes you look fat, your plane
ticket was soooo expensive or that you're dreading making a toast. Write to
us if you need a place to vent -- we're more sympathetic to your plight
- Be timely
Provide whatever information the bride requests immediately. If she needs
your measurements, your middle initial or your meal preference respond ASAP
to help her keep on schedule.
Don't wait to the last minute to make travel plans. You don't want to end
up stressing the bride, or yourself, out if flights/hotels are full or
Arrive at events on time. It makes a bad impression to be late when you're
part of the wedding party.
- Pay up
If the bride asks you to reimburse her for the dress, do so promptly. It's
awkward enough to ask your friends for money, even more awkward if she has
to send someone out to break your kneecaps. While it may hurt to write a
big check for a dress you hate, it just has to be done.
- Pay attention
Talk to the bride throughout the engagement and wedding planning process.
Feign interest if you have to, but let her know you care. See our Big Day
Reminders for more ways to shine on the big day.
- Keep it to yourself
If you're single, having a case of "ring fever" and an uncooperative
significant other or just had a bad break-up, it can seem like torture to
participate in yet another wedding that isn't your own. While it's totally
normal to feel this way, you have to put your feelings aside, act happy for
the bride and maintain a positive attitude (at least on the outside). It's
hard at times, but we have no doubt that one day you'll have a starring role
in your own wedding someday. And then all your bridesmaids will hate you
too. Just kidding.